Of program the 'lover' does not see the 'beloved' as an 'object', considering the fact that that indicates mere body for sexual intercourse, or some other objectification of transitory values (spouse, companion, ex, corpse), but all the same they do see the 'beloved' as a better item, normally by way of glimpsing their individual dissolution in the other, which is then held onto right after the instant has passed as some heat fuzzy object.