We have to say not just what we do not want from boys but what we do want from them. I also comprehended that, developmentally, adolescents want and require to truly feel a robust sense of belonging. To go up versus that, to convince individuals that we never will need to set many others down to elevate ourselves up … I do not know. I would want to be some form of superman." Cole fell silent. But you still really don't know how to drive.